I appreciate all the stories and quotes; they all describe my wife. They are not real family just toxic people who want to use you up. If you threaten the narcissist, they use emotional blackmail to stop feeling the threat. But not til last spring, when I was seeing a therapist because there has got to be something wrong with me ha, he kept telling me that! His behavior seems callous, unemotional and selfish. Nothing is real and never was for 18 years. I'm not saying this is the most mature thing to do but it worked for me.
She claims to love me but hates me. He is also disabled which gives him that sympathy factor he craves. He even uses my personal vehicle now because his has broke down. He stole his sisters stuff and gave to me which i discovered later. She eventually stopped calling and I walked for 15 miles home. I admit that I had the choice to make and because I am a romantic and she fell in love with me when I had nothing, I decided that I could be happy just about anywhere with her.
He treated me like an unintelligent human being unworthy of basic human courtesy. Criticizing a husband with narcissism might cause him to react with both anger and contempt, which can make it difficult to maintain a healthy relationship, because it does not take much to make him feel hurt or rejected. Today when I came home, there it was, sitting on the counter. I hope to persuade someone to listen to that aching little voice inside of them that is sounding warnings and to listen to that feeling of being suffocated. Everyday it gets easier especially as I refuse to acknowledge or respond to the abusive emails and text messages hes sends.
I made an appointment with a divorce attorney the next week, and two weeks after he left, the petition to divorce was filed. I think he is delusional. I actually pray for his death and worry about his new wife and her child's safety, but the trouble is, he has convinced everyone I am the mad one. He really has no need for his own. I stayed married to a narcissist for 20 years and he almost took my soul. Seek help and hunger for God! Reply to this with your email if you want any resources, Christian or secular. Backhanded comments, continual negativity, or complete ignorance of anything you have accomplished or done well, are all signs you are a victim of narcissistic abuse.
He told me that he had an affair whilst with her which he admitted was wrong. Raising self-worth by devaluing the worth of others is one way narcissists maintain this high opinion. I have sought counselling at least 3 times and he has always said he doesnt need it and im the crazy unstable one. If you can, journal about the experiences you have been going through to begin acknowledging the realities of the abuse. How about writing a book on how to navigate the court system so they see what a narcissist is and that you aren't just crazy asking for sole custody and supervised visitations. They will teach you how to find and create a support group to lean on. By the end of the marraige, I found myself being afraid to buy myself a stick of lipstick, winning a game while playing with friends, going home after work, etc.
He ended up abandoning her as he has done to every person who questioned his wrongdoing, then makes them sound like an awful person, like he is doing to me. I'm trying to figure out an escape plan, I need to get out soon or I fear I'll either go insane or kill myself. I wake up every day suffering the effects. All around me is destruction. I am a finance professional and working in a company at the highest finance post.
I've stopped trying to date until I can work me out. The lawn was done perfectly, but she went off because grass ended up on the patio. Although he destroyed the love element in our relationship I still feel compassion for him. I've been with my husband 10 years now. In Europe via Tullamore, Ireland, Australia on the Gold Coast, and Hermanus, South Africa. None of us are perfect, I am no different to the next woman, I have hormonal days where I can be moody and short tempered, I can be argumentative and difficult on occasion and a little contrary, I am a bloody nightmare and drive everyone mad by being so house proud, I know my faults, but I also know that I would never stoop the depths of depravity to that of my narcissistic husband. A narcissist makes you feel like you are going crazy.
To keep a healthy spouse at home, show him that you sincerely care by offering to go along with him to his sessions, even if you spend the whole time in the waiting room while he talks with his therapist. Unfortunately, I made a bad choice, I met and married a narcissist and have spent the last 6 years in a constant state of confusion and turmoil! He became desperate to win me back with the 10,000th apology. When i got up this morning and planned on leaving, i know i would be have to live on a credit card and stay at a hotel till i found a place to live. They are not devoid of empathy, and they have a greater ability to bestow attention on others. I didn't want anyone to take care of us; I did that. I've spent years trying to work out my problems, but this article describes my wife to a T. But now I've lost everything, including my truck and I'm facing an eviction notice.
I know he will fight me tooth and nail for everything he can get from me, but I don't want anything — just out and away from him. And science-based couples therapy helps to re-direct these men and assist their wives to make softened start-ups and effective complaints. That is her way to apologize for whatever it is that she said or did to me. However as it goes … As long as we served him? I love him and I wish I could help him, but he doesnt think he needs help, he doesnt understand what compassion is, what kindness means, how to be impathetic towards others. The people who are most affected by narcissism are those who have dealt with drug addictions in the family those who have codependency. Trying to make a narcissist fit the mold of a normal healthy well adjusted person will confuse hurt frustrate and ruin their fragile charade and they will crumble and use you to cushion the fall.
He blame me for that miscarriage and also tell his parents that my body is not capable. Both had docile fathers that they seemed to admire. I have tried to overcome the things he has done to me: affairs, lies, emotional abuse, etc. I don't want to ruin her publicly; she is fondly thought of in the public, and I don't want others to think poorly of her. That second half takes his attack to a deeper level, and he does that on purpose—narcissists have very brittle egos, and feel this inherent need to be adored and praised because they truly believe that they're perfect, she explains.